A date is always like a dance. One leads, and the other follows. In the next chorus, the other one takes his or her turn to lead. They look in each other’s eyes and follow the sways of each beat. They laugh, nuzzle each other tenderly – another perfect dance together.
However, it’s pretty sure that things aren’t always like that. First dances, like first dates, are about taking tentative steps. Each person is unsure of the other. Each one may fumble and trip over. Each one may step on the partner’s toes every now and then. But still, first dances and first dates can be fun.
With first dates though, the fumble and tripping may mean no second, third, or fourth date. It can be disastrous, especially if you happen to really like your date. Here are some tips to help avoid these dating traps:
Do the tango
Tango is one of the most sensual dances ever – and tango always takes two. You simply cannot pivot or turn without a partner in your arms.
Having said that, first dates are intros to tangos wherein each partner puts forth this two-way vibe. Talk should be two way. Sharing should be two way. Don’t get so overly excited to share yourself and your gazillion stories. There will be time for that. Listen to his or her stories too and let your date open up.
Don’t do the threesome cha-cha
Dates are made for two, not three. Dates can feel like an overcrowded threesome if you bring issues and stories about your ex on the table. This goes the same if you riddle the night with stories about your best friend, your mom, or anyone else. Make the night be about you and your date – and not everyone else.
Slow dance together
Linger in this moment with your date. Be theirs and theirs alone for tonight. Pay attention. A shifty inattentive gaze can spell disaster. There might not be more dates to come. So, move in as if your world has fused with theirs. Be interested in what they have to say. Move with their body language. And take your time to get to know each other.
Hip hop promptly into their arms
Simply said, be on time. Get your groove on fast and be in the assigned date venue at a prompt time. Promptness is a basic measure of consideration for someone’s time. Surely, your date deserves someone who values his or her time.