Older women definitely have an edge or two against younger women. They can be more confident and knowledgeable. Their experience can offer a vastly different tone and range in your conversations and shared adventures. But then again, this may not really be attributable to age. In dating and relationship, compatibility, and communication matter more in the end.
Here are some tips when dealing with age differences in a relationship:
Be yourself
Age is just a number. And, age gap is just a term to refer to the difference in age, and not about your compatibility. Don’t get too caught up in the number. Getting together with an older woman is just like getting together with any woman. You are there because she likes you, and you like her. You have similar interests and, perhaps, beliefs.
Have confidence in what you can offer the relationship. Maybe, you admire her for her experience and knowledge. But know that what you share is important too. Say what you think; and, of course, let her say hers. A good relationship is always one where the parties are on equal footing, regardless of differences – including differences in age.
Allow talk, time together, and mutual respect to encourage a deeper knowing of each other. This can only happen if you allow your true self to show; if you open yourself up to her.
Let her be herself
No matter how refined, experienced, and knowledgeable a person seems to be, no one is ever really perfect. The older woman that you are dating may seem to be the epitome of perfection to you but leave room for her imperfections. These imperfections are what make her real and human – and all the more fun to be with. She may get childish when it comes to this and that issue. She may act up or get irritated. She may be afraid of some things, take issue on others. There is a whole world in her that goes beyond this idea of a perfect older woman. Someone really interested will get to know these and embrace these as they are.
Be mature
This goes for any relationship, but applies most especially when it’s with an older woman. Maturity is a perquisite in maintaining a healthy relationship as relationships are not all roses and wine. These take a lot of work, and maturity is key in pulling through it. And as in any relationship, it takes time to really get to know the person – time and patience, and the right amount of love.