A good date with someone you are beginning to like can end up with you two locking lips. That’s ideally a wonderful experience and a great date ender. However, what if your date ends up being a bad kisser? Does it spell the end of this dating bliss? Should it affect the fact that you are beginning to like this person?
For those with this dilemma, don’t be too disappointed. A bad kiss is not a hopeless case. Take these three steps to surely turn a bad kiss into an amazing one.
Think
What was it about the kiss that you didn’t like? Was there too much tongue action? Did you taste dinnertime’s onions and garlic? Did your lips come out all sloppy and wet after? Or did you feel like the kiss was as fast as a gecko’s tongue? Examining what felt wrong about the kiss is always a good start. How else can you two work on it if you can’t figure out what felt wrong?
Everyone has different standards of a good kiss. What feels good to you may not always be what your partner looks for. People have different tastes – and this is not limited to cuisines, music, clothing, and what have you. This also pertains to personal interactions such as the kiss.
In this sense, it may not just be a case of your partner disappointing you. You may also be thought of as ‘not so good’ in the lip-locking department. In some ways, it can be that the characteristics being shown to you in the kiss is a way for your partner to communicate what he or she wants. For example, if the kiss was too much on the rough side, maybe your partner likes passionate devil-may-care kisses. If the kiss was too wet, perhaps your partner is telling you that yours is too dry. It could be a lot of things, really. And first kisses can be awkward especially because you and your partner may have different expectations. Even so, it is not a hopeless situation. Just think things through first. Then comes the next step.
Say
Don’t expect your date to be a mind reader. If the kiss wasn’t so good, tell him or her about it; and tell your date what you like. As in every situation or problem, communication can be a great help – if not the solution, in itself. At the same time, ask your date how they’d like to be kissed. Understanding and compromise can start here – as well as better kissing.
Do
If you’re done talking or would rather show what you prefer through non-verbal means, then by all means, do. Show your date what you want and if he or she is sensitive enough to you, your date will get it.